Although I do see the problem of accidental slip ups, I still fail to see why this should lead to depression. Yes, it can be a nuisance to have the constant need of controlling your words to prevent fuckups, but almost anybody has something to hide from others....drugs, drinking habits, people being homosexual but still don´t want to come out despite of legality, hell, even so called "normal" folks who seem like just an average hetero couple, but get their kicks from feces play...I agree that a zoo has a "bigger secret" to protect, with more severe consequences if he/she fucks up, but I really believe the zoo community is vastly exaggerating the positive effects of being out of the closet.
As a guy who´s had his coming outs to a couple of friends, I can tell you the problems you have won´t miraculously disappear, they only will shift. Not to mention that by telling others you heavily increase the possibilities of a slip up...if you are the only one with the secret, it´s all depending on you...but if you tell others, they can fuck up your secret , too. Not even out of evil intent, you know....
One truth I luckily understood fairly early in my zoo life was that sexuality is best kept private. The only person who should know all about you is YOU, and only you. If you can cope with your sexuality, if you can accept yourself as you are, there´s no further need to "spill the beans". If you take a look into the mirror, you´ll see the ONLY person that needs to come to terms with what he/she is. Be glad you still have a secret..in this era of media whores , this actually is a unique feature. The only person needed to live a pleasant life is you...
All of you who are depressed or anxious because they pursue a sexuality that is illegal...why do you give so much on what others and society thinks of zoophiles? Is it really of such a huge importance? I consider myself a semi-fatalist, I surely will do anything I can to prevent bad stuff from happening to my mare and me, but if bad stuff happens, I accept it. Fear is a bad advisor and constantly thinking about the "What if someone finds out?" or "What if the wrong person finds out?" will inevitably kill your overall happiness. You worry too much. And even if you will be caught one day, what is objectively better, a constant angst-ridden life or a joyous life while "it lasts"?
Honestly, why should I destroy my life with all these worries? And why should you? Why should anyone? There is a phenomenon that is called the "illusion of omnipotence" and usually, it´s people in illegality or living illegal lifes who are massively blinded by this phenomenon. It´s the rather irrational notion that "the cops are already out there to get you"...zoos seem to fall for that quite often, I think. But there´s also a complementary phenomenon called "the illusion of impotence" illegal people fall for often. None of us has "I fuck animals!" tattooed on thier foreheads (or I hope so at least [img]<fileStore.core_Emoticons>/emoticons/wink.png[/img]/emoticons/
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One last advice: Stop worrying, start living...your time is limited as is the time of your animal partner. Don´t waste this time on worries. Don´t fall for the "Oh, we´re SOOO under pressure" filter bubbles erected in all these zoo forums...or does anyone actually believe that constant mutual reassurement of "Oh, we´re SOOO under pressure" will lead to anything else but massively angsty and depressed people? If almost anyone tells you how "dangerous" it is out there, will you find courage in this? Or will your fears exponentially increase the more you are exposed to the fearmongering? Lots of that typical whining about "unjust society" just serves as a self fulfilling prophecy, as a filter goggle placed right in front of your eyes, drastically blurring your vision. Yes, I am a zoo. I practice it with my mares for three decades now. Yes, I have told my orientation to quite a lot of my friends...and I am still here, not in jail or chemically castrated and in therapy. Yes, I also have to keep my eyes and ears open to prevent stupid things from happening, but I´m not depressive because I understood that zoophilia isn´t a cosy orientation. I also will not swallow the lies of these "mindless openness" folks....and can strictly recommend comparing our situation to that of so called "normal" folks...just ask the old guy with his significantly younger wife whether he can "just be" or if he too faces criticism and defamation from some. Ask the slender guy with his fat as f*ck wife. Ask the feces people. Ask the poly people if they can mindlessly wander around and unveil their sexual triggers to the world. What many of us wish for, this illusionary world in which there is absolutely NO problem, no criticism for your sexuality...well, folks, this doesn´t even exist for "normal" people. Judgement is engrained into the human mind and regardless of what any of us will do, it will stay there until mankind ceases to exist. Wishing for this "non judgemental fantasy world" is like wishing for a world in which you can step on a car lane without having to watch for cars in rush hour. The world won´t rearrange around you and your specific needs....so you need to be taught to turn your head left and right before you step onto the lane. Zoophilia involves risks....and I am absolutely willing and prepared to deal with these risks in a rational and responsible way. I really wish you all would see things similarly...without all of that wishful thinking about a "perfect world", lots of these depression and anxiety cases would totally disappear and a whole shitload of energy to actually change things in our favour would be set free. Well, maybe in a century or so... [img]<fileStore.core_Emoticons>/emoticons/wink.png[/img]/emoticons/
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The strongest are those who can be happy in the worst thunderstorm, those who can find joy and solace in extremely dangers...also, those are the ones typically mastering all those dangers effortlessly. Zoophilia involves risks. Accept this and LIVE.
